The devil’s in the details
By Style Feed Staff, 15 July 2015
So you’ve managed to convince your latest Tinder match to meet you for dinner, a bottle of the (second) cheapest wine on the menu and a night hearing all your best tried and tested anecdotes. You’ve washed (twice), thrown on your best gear and even sprayed a little cologne for the occasion. You’re golden, son. You’re good to go. But are you? Here are six easy-to-overlook things that your date will always notice about your appearance. Get them right, and thank us later.
If you’ve ‘gone cheap’ with your shoes
You've heard the phrase ‘put your best foot forward’, right? That’s because everyone – particularly girls giving a guy the once over – notices your shoes. It doesn’t matter if you’re wearing an expensive suit or your coolest casual outfit, the whole look will collapse if there is something cheap and nasty on the end of your feet. So: nothing plastic, nothing with square toes and nothing with the remnants of your last footy match on them. You don’t need to spend a fortune: a solid pair of brown desert boots or brogues, or a clean pair of all-white trainers, will go with almost anything.
Whether your fingernails are clean
Quite aside from the fact she may want you to touch her with them later, sloppy fingernails are the mark of a sloppy man and a sign you don’t know how to take care of yourself properly. Clip them regularly, apply a little moisturiser if the skin gets frayed and – most importantly – clean underneath. Your hands aren’t something you can hide, so take pride in them.
How well your clothes fit
A vital rule for dressing generally, but one that is particularly important if you want to look attractive: a £200 suit that fits perfectly is better than a £2,000 suit with too much room in the shoulders that pools at your ankles because the legs are too long. If you’re ‘not sure whether it fits or not’, the chances are it doesn’t. So don’t be tempted to buy items you like that they don’t have in your size, unless you know a good tailor.
Whether your coat is ‘appropriate’
A classic male style mistake is to try and get through the winter months by ‘layering’ several items under a thin summer jacket, just to avoid having to buy a proper thick overcoat. Or, if all they own is a thick overcoat, taking it on and off continuously and carrying it over their arms on a spring day/summer night to avoid stocking up on thin summer jackets. Either look comes off as awkward and unprepared and, while it’s hardly unforgivable, it will be noted.
How many buttons you have undone
Generally speaking, wearing a shirt rather than a T-shirt on a date implies you’ve made a bit more of an effort and will get the mental thumbs up (no need to be too formal, either – a well-ironed white or blue Oxford shirt will do the trick). But beware how many buttons you leave undone – more than three will set off ‘leave now’ signals for most women, no matter how hot it is outside.
Whether you know what you’re doing with accessories
When it comes to ‘add-ons’ to your look, less is always more. A beautiful scarf? Great. A well-selected pocket square? Classy. A knitted tie? Very cool. Small, discreet jewellery? Sure, why not. But try and do all of these things at once, and suddenly you’re going to look fussy and affected. So keep it simple, and play it safe.